Here’s What Your Wedding Guests REALLY Care About

“We asked around wedding guests to share what they really pay attention to at weddings (and what they could care less about). You may be surprised by their responses.”

Your wedding should be about you and your partner, reflecting your taste, style, and personality. However, there are also going to be a whole bunch of other people who have traveled and spent money to attend your big day—your wedding guests—so it’s important to take their comfort and enjoyment into (major) consideration. Of course, trying to make all those people happy is pretty much impossible. So how do you narrow down the wedding details that your guests will actually care about? Well, you’re in luck—we at Madewithlove asked guests to share what they really pay attention to at weddings and of course, what they could care less about. You may be surprised by their responses.

Here, find out what your guests will actually notice at your wedding—and the things they really won’t.

What your guests really do notice…

The Food

This is probably not too surprising——the majority of wedding guests said that food is one of the most important things they pay attention to at weddings. That’s why you’ll probably spend about half of your budget on your catering and venue—because the last thing you want is hangry guests. Whether you choose to serve your wedding meal plated, buffet-style, or family-style is your call, as long as you ensure that your food appeals to a wide range of tastes and is plentiful. That’s where hiring a skilled and experienced caterer comes in.


Your guests want to celebrate you and your new spouse—and good music is essential for that party atmosphere! In fact, over half of wedding guests said they care about having good music at a wedding. Whether you go for a band or a DJ is entirely your decision, but make sure your hire a professional who can read your crowd to ensure the dance floor will be packed all night long. The last thing you want is a group of bored guests.

Reception Venue
Choosing a wedding venue is one of the very first things you’ll do when planning your big day, because it’s really important! Your venue sets the tone for your entire wedding, whether it’s a casual event at the beach or a super-formal celebration in a ballroom. We believe that the venue is one of the biggest things guests will notice when they attend a wedding.

Both during the ceremony and reception, guests are indeed checking out your décor. That doesn’t mean you need to go Pinterest-crazy, but working with your vendors to come up with a cohesive color scheme and wedding style will ensure that your décor is on point.

For some guests, the highlight of a wedding is free booze. Alcohol can be expensive, though, so don’t feel like you have to offer a top-shelf selection. We advise you to limit your bar to wine, beer, and a signature cocktail or two to save money while still providing ample drinks to your guests. Moreover, many venues allow you to bring your own booze and that really help you to stay on budget. So, you can easily visit a cava and shop some whiskeys, vodkas or even tequilas if you like.

What your guests actually don’t care about…

Escort Cards
You may be agonizing over creating that picture-perfect escort card display or seating chart, but here’s the thing—your guests probably won’t even notice.

You and your loved ones may spend hours (or more!) agonizing over the reception toasts—who gives ’em, exactly what they’ll say, and more. But it turns out that your guests really aren’t listening that closely to those toasts and speeches. According to the study, only a few guests cared about a wedding’s toasts.

Bouquet Toss
While some love these traditions, others find them outdated—so if you’re leaning toward skipping, know that your guests probably won’t miss ‘em.